I’ve been getting into a bad habit of skipping lunch or cheaping out on dinner in an effort to save money. While wandering around Rotorua slightly lost another backpacker stopped me to ask for directions, and we ended up walking around for a bit trying to find our way back to the bus stop. He was also travelling on his own and I decided to be bold and ask him to have dinner with me, thus ensuring that I would not only eat a proper meal, but that I would have company to boot. Eating on my own is not something I have a problem with – it’s a reality with my job many months of the year, and to be honest it’s sometimes nice to only have to cater to what my tummy wants! But one of the purposes of this trip is to challenge myself and I was pretty impressed that I asked a stranger to dinner.
It started off fine – he was from Korea and we chatted about the benefits of travelling solo, and how it’s sometimes difficult to explain to others why it appeals to us. But then he had to go and hit on me repeatedly.
Normally when I travel I wear a fake wedding ring, and in yet another forehead-slapping move I forgot it when packing. Man I wish I’d had that ring at dinner. It was the longest, most painful dinner of life. My eyes pleaded with the waitress each time she floated past to please, please bring the bill. But she either did not read eyes well or felt like torturing me for ordering the cheapest (and only vegetarian) item on the menu.
Why you single?
Why you not travel with man?
If I come to Canada, will you date me?
And so on.
I haven’t been travelling for that long, but I’ve already noticed a lack of solo females out there. I am seeing a lot of couples, and a lot of gal and guy friends having a blast together. Witnessing these groups of happy-pappy people and the looks of pity that I can just FEEL they’re giving me is making this hard. Being hit on by every guy I meet is also not helping.
Is it really this hard for a solo female traveller? I just want to make friends! Dear fellow travellers – please be my friend. I’m cool and come with snacks!